Miracle Beginnings

My baby is turning four this weekend

2011-04-28T23:44:00.000-07:00

Time is flying by so quickly, in just a blink of an eye, my baby is turning four. Lukas Nate is the miracle that was against all odds. He was my miracle baby! After our two premmies, we were told not to have anymore children as the result would be either myself or the baby would die. Quite dramatic, but the fact.

I searched high and low for answers to prove I could have another baby. We were blessed to be placed in the hands of two amazing doctors who guided us all the way to a full term baby. As part of my pregnancy, I had to inject myself everyday with medication. It was worth it. As part of the pregnancy, I had to meet with doctors, have fortnightly ultrasounds, blood tests, urine tests and daily blood pressure monitoring. It was worth it.

There is not a day that goes by in the past four years that I don't look at this special boy with gratitude. Lukas brings so much to our lives in more ways than one. He taught me to be patient, perserevance and to believe that there are possibilities in life, you just need to keep the faith and hold on.

Happy Birthday my special little boy x

Inspirational Mothers

2011-04-25T21:25:00.000-07:00

I have been addicted to The Biggest Loser this year. Its been my tradition to sit and watch the hour show with usually a tear or two. It is a huge emotional roller coaster for these inspirational people.

Many lessons have resonated from the show, especially for mothers. There are two ladies on the show, Kelly and Bec, who have small children at home and have won the battle with weight. As they have peeled the layers off, they have had to confront their emotional issues. These are mainly the constant battle of mother guilt and providing all of themselves to their children. In this selfless effort, they slowly lost small pieces of who they were and became a person they did not recognise.

Its inspiring to watch the new mothers emerge with the understanding of they now need to look after themselves first in a healthy and positive manner to then be able to give their children a happy, fulfilled mother.

A child, in my opinion, needs nothing more x

Mothers who need lending hand - is that not all of us?

2011-04-03T17:51:00.001-07:00

Just recently I was connected with two fabulous women - 1. Maddie from The Healing Retreat and 2. Bec from Nurture Nanny. Maddie is in the midst of creating a new business to help mothers who are suffering or who have suffered from post natal depression. She will be hosting retreats for mothers to come together and heal. Very much needed! Bec has a fabulous new business called Nurture Nanny. This service is for mothers to give them a lending hand after they arrive home from the hospital. This could be with feeding, sleep patterns, routine or simply the meals, washing or shopping. Angels!! Its amazing how women keep evolving to be able to create and provide such wonderful services to mothers. The key is that women need to accept this help, even if they don't think they really need it at the time. Most of us try to be super women, but at the end of the day, this facade is exhausting. Give it up and accept the help. Just think of the downtime you will have to enjoy a shower, a hot cup of tea and a cuddle with your baby. That moment does not come back, cherish it while you can.

Blood Tests.

2011-03-24T21:20:00.000-07:00

I am sure the prem mothers reading this blog can identify to the heartbreaking scream of our prem babies who are usually pricked several times a day for blood testing.

This was the one daily routine that would leave me feeling helpless. I was unable to do anything except gently touch my prem through the humidicrib as doctors would try to find a vein to take the blood.

Well, today, nearly 5 and half years later, these same feelings came back.

We have had some concerns with Kye's health and we are in the midst of finding out what is really going on in his body. Blood tests are one way of finding the answers.

This morning we prepared Kye for the test and placed a numbing patch over his arm to hopefully ease the pain. We bribed him with the outcome of buying a beanie kid after the test and assured him it will be over and done with quickly.

As I sat on the clinical bed with Kye, my heart started racing. I looked at my little boy who was smiling at this point whilst the nurse was trying to find a vein in his tiny arm. This took some time as his veins are significantly small due to the size of his body. As he laid down to begin the process of taking the blood. He took my hand and squeezed it tight. He was trying so hard to be brave and whispered "Mum, its starting to hurt". My eyes welled up with tears. For a moment, everything in the room stood still except for my thoughts.

This was my moment to reassure him and be his strength. I could not let him see my tears at this time, as these were tears from the past, not the present. He was looking to me for strength.

I quickly swallowed my tears and smiled. I held his hand tight and told him how brave he was and that it was all going to be over in a minute. We talked about the beanie kid he was going to buy. He even tried to negotiate two bears, which made me laugh! No doubt about him.

The nurses were so proud of him! He walked out of the surgery so chuffed with himself that he had got through his worse fear. I was so proud of my little man. He has become such a strong, brave survivor of all areas of his life thus far.

Its not only prem mums that need a hug...

2011-03-20T02:19:00.000-07:00

I had a great day out with a girlfriend yesterday who just graduated as a midwife. She was filling me in on all the stories from special care.

There were some sad stories and some fantastic outcomes with prem babies, which is always great to hear. However, there were other stories that came from full term births with traumatic outcomes.

No woman starts her pregnancy thinking there will be complications and no mother wants plans to be in special care. For the prem mums, we sometimes have warnings along the way or for an early labour, we sometimes have a few moments to grasp reality and get ready for the rocky road ahead.....

But for the mother who has an uncomplicated pregnancy and birth to then find herself in special care with a full term baby would be an utter shock.

My midwife friend has seen many of these mothers in special care. From us prem mums, we send our thoughts, love and prayers. There will be hard days and there will be joyous days. Its a rollercoaster ride. Hold on to your loved ones and take one step at a time.

Five Premmie Babies.....

2011-03-06T21:08:00.000-08:00

Last night I was flicking around on the tv and I came across a moving, emotional story on 60 Minutes of two women who have just had five premmie babies. The story followed them from the moment of conception to the dramatic twist of an early labour and delivering five beautiful, tiny babies.

For us mothers who have had our emotional, heart renching times with one or two premmie babies, we can understand a fifth of these mothers emotional roller coaster with five babies in special care. All of the babies weighed less than a 1kg.

It is a must see - http://sixtyminutes.ninemsn.com.au/

What amazing women! We wish you and your beautiful babies a healthy, happy and fulfilling life. Just wait till you get these beautiful babies home. You have so much to look forward to!

Motivating Mums

2011-03-02T01:46:00.000-08:00

I was recently contacted by a fabulous woman by the name of Ali Price. Ali has created an inspiring business in Oz and the UK in which she motivates and supports mums in business. A great concept.

Ali asked me to make a few notes on being mentored by a mentor in business and in life, as well as the opportunity to work together on some future projects.

Here is the link - enjoy!
http://www.motivatingmum.com/wp/?p=517

Friends for a reason, a season or a lifetime

2011-02-16T01:58:00.000-08:00

Its still astounds me how just when I think I have a great group of supportive friends that share the same values and respect for friendship that I do, along comes a new friend who feels like she has been there all my life. To be honest, I really dont know how I got by so far without her.

This special friend has been in my life for a few years, however, in the past year she has really been my shining star. I have found myself at her kitchen table many times answering her questions in an honest and uncensored way. There are only a few people who you really can do this with.

My friend always feeds and waters me with gourmet dishes (which we share a true passion for) and has the best set of listening ears. I often think why she did not appear when I was working through all my "stuff" after Kye was born. She would have been the perfect person to pull me through with her wisdom. And then I realised, I had to pull myself through the "stuff" to really own my feelings, my issues and my outcome.

On reflection, I am truly grateful for my friend being in my life now and forever. She is the person who gently encourages me to keep the light burning for Miracle Beginnings and to believe in myself. She makes me a better person and I am so thankful for her energy, her laughter, her wisdom and her ears.
x

Life is full of lessons.....

2011-02-10T02:19:00.000-08:00

Just when you think you have a handle on life - another curve ball will hit you straight between the eyes!

This week I have learnt many lessons. It would have been nice to spread them all out over the next month, but no, all at once.

What I have learnt from these past few days, is to always follow your gut instinct. If you make a choice that goes against what others think, the world will not fall apart. It may feel like it will for a moment, but with the next breath, the next hour, the next day. it will be ok.

As a mother, I feel I am constantly being watched by my three little monkeys. They are always watching my reactions to good and bad situations. They make me accountable.

Hopefully, the decisions I have made this week will slowly take its turn. I have learnt my lessons, loud and clear. There is no need for any repetition!

A new years resolution....

2011-01-05T03:39:00.000-08:00

It always seems to be this time of year that we make a commitment to ourselves that we will work out, eat less, cut out the junk and lose the muffin top......its always in a month's time that we lose focus and reform to our old habits. I am guilty as charged!

HOWEVER, late last year I made a commitment to myself to exercise for many other reasons, other than physical appearance and I actually started to see results. I was sick of my own excuses of not having time because of the kids, work, house, husband, the dog - really any reason at all. I became focused and found myself slipping into my old jeans - yes, you know the ones, we all keep at the back of the cupboard!

If you have made a new years resolution to commit to exercise in some form - copy this quote and sticky tape it somewhere you will read it every day...it will motivate you to get up and get going:

"This investment may be the most humbling struggle you have ever embarked on, yes, but the rewards are that it makes you glow and feel free. Getting good at regular exercise is not comfortable at the beginning. We have a universal responsibility to work smart and hard for our physical beauty" - Tracy Anderson, Celebrity Trainer

PS It also gives you sanity, clarity and peace!!

Welcome 2011

2011-01-05T03:33:00.000-08:00

2010 has flown past so quickly, there has less time to be on the computer to blog.

I apologise for not having the discipline to be online blogging to our community. This will change as there are many exciting adventures in the planning stages and ready to be launched for this year.

All I can ask is to stay tuned, stay connected and watch this space.....my mission is to bring you a new level of hope and inspiration. It is very exciting, come join me for the ride!

xxx

Just breathe...

2010-10-21T22:39:00.000-07:00

"Breath. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure" - Oprah

I attended a girlfriend's mothers funeral today. It broke my heart to see her pain losing her mother. The ceremony reminded me of what is important in life, a little adjustment to keep me on track. Take a minute this weekend to remind yourself of what is important in your life. Take a minute to breathe and let go. Take a minute to be grateful. I know I will be.

Time for Ourselves

2010-10-07T21:58:00.001-07:00

"Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away"

Barbara De Angels

Take some time out this weekend to just sit still. This could be anywhere, even on the toilet! Just as long as you have five minutes of solitude with no interruptions. At this time, try to think of nothing and concentrate on your breathing. Just five minutes!

Tough times

2010-10-07T00:45:00.000-07:00

I was sitting in the park yesterday with a lovely friend who I have met through school. Her family have had a hard year with several illnesses diagnosed with her three children. As she was explaining to me about the side effects of medicine, the treatments, the counselling and the affect this has on the family, I sat back and admired her.

I told my friend that I admired the way she has taken all of this on board and the way she has approached her life as is now with so many curve balls. She told me that what keeps her grounded is how grateful she is for her family and her husband. It was just beautiful.

How easy is it to complain about how hard our life is today? It may well be a tough day but in that moment of feeling down and trodden, think of one thing you may be grateful for and hold onto that thought.

I can guarantee your frown will turn into a smile and your energy will shift. It may be the difference between having a bad day to having a better day.

Friday's Thought of the Day

2010-09-23T22:05:00.000-07:00

" The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for" - Maureen Dowd

Take this thought with you today and really think about the consequence of your choices. Mothers deserve the best in life - do not settle for anything less.

The best gift a prem mum can give to her baby - Kangaroo Care

2010-09-16T22:22:00.001-07:00

As mentioned in my book "Miracle Beginnings", I found the most precious time with my premmie babies was in the quiet moments of kangaroo care. To hold my precious babies skin to skin and feel their tiny heartbeat was a piece of heaven.

Emotionally, it gave me a sense of bonding, that I was missing as their mother. Physically, it was obvious how much my babies enjoyed our sessions. Oxygen levels would increase, Heart rate levels would stabalise, Body Temperture would be perfect and in that moment, they would be functioning as a normal baby.

I truly hope midwives are encouraging mothers with premmie babies to kangaroo hug every day. There were days when I thought it would not be possible with all the wires, complications, and tests. However, I was always hopeful and persistent with the midwives to let me have at least 20 minutes of Kangaroo Care time with my babies.

As a mother of a prem, its the best gift you can give your baby.

Mother Meltdown

2010-08-18T03:06:00.000-07:00

Early this week, I had a mother meltdown infront of our kids school. You know the kind!

It was Monday morning and all the kids were tired from a huge weekend of socialising. When we arrived at my daughter's school, she was reluctant to get out of the car. I got out of the car and gently asked her to get on with it and go to school. She started crying telling me she was tired and did not feel like it. I was so frustrated. I looked up at another mother who smiled at me reassuring. I then proceeded to push (gently) Hanna into the car and for us all to breathe.

I drove off (in a furious rush) and dropped the other two kids to school. On my way back, I dropped Han off to school and walked her into the classroom.

The next day I bumped into the mother who had smiled at me the previous day. I went up to her and thanked her for her reassurance. I told her it was just one of those mornings. Her reply was to remember that no emotion remains the same and that as mothers, we have all been in the same place.

It was lovely to connect with another mother who was not passing judgement. At the end of the day, we all understand each other. We just need to let each other know that some days its ok to have a mother meltdown of any kind!

Fresh Air

2010-08-08T23:56:00.000-07:00

I have been walking these past few weeks for exercise, however, also realised how much I love the fresh air! We all walk for exercise to shape up for summer, but there is so much more to it then just the physical benefit.

Breathing fresh air is a pleasure we take for granted. Just try it and see what happens....your thoughts will be clearer, your energy will increase and you hormones will be happy. Even if you can go for 10 minutes, it is better than nothing at all.

If I could only help one mother....

2010-08-04T01:31:00.000-07:00

I remember when writing my book that I worked with a mission and that was to help at least one mother through her depression, hard times, battle or whatever you would like to name it.

It's funny, I never really set out to sell millions of books. My intention was always to be honest and open about my experience with the return result being able to help other women do the same.

I could not care less if the book was selling really well in bookshops. What I do care about is how it affects women when they read it.

For example, today, a reader told me she has booked herself into seeing professional helpto sort through her post natal depression. When she read Miracle Beginnings, she felt as though I was speaking to her and she could relate to every word written.

This is when I feel most proud! It is life changing. I am so proud of the women who choose to change their lives by seeking professional help. I can promise you it will make your world a whole different place to live in.

Five years on...

2010-08-03T03:29:00.000-07:00

Last Friday our boy Kye turned five years old. It felt like five minutes ago I was sitting day in and day out next to his humidicrib. In a blink of an eye, our tiny baby is now a five year old with a huge personality.

I remember the conversation with the specialist when Kye was born that it would take at least five years for him to catch up in all areas of his life - physically and mentally. I always kept this in the back of mind especially when he took his first step to walk at 23 months. In just the past few months, Kye's life has fallen into place. He can now write his name, he is starting to read and his height has shot up like a beanstalk. He still has no body fat (he use to turn purple in the water up until last year!) and he is still tiny in features.

When Kye was born, it was so hard to visualise the future ahead. However, I tried everyday to be positive and know that it was all going to be ok. I am so grateful that we are through the dark tunnel of uncertainty and on the road to developing a great life for Kye.

Where have I been....

2010-07-20T01:18:00.001-07:00

I am back! I have had 3 weeks off from my busy life and it has been a great break. I recently sold one of my businesses with my business partner, just before school holidays. It was perfect timing to be at home with the kids. We also snuck away to the Blue Mountains to escape the rat race of Sydney and hang out together infront of an open fire.

I am really looking forward to creating a new empire with my business partner to help women become the best they can be. It will work in with Miracle Beginnings and celebrate women from all aspects of life. We kick off tomorrow with our first meeting to set our plan in stone. Watch this space.

For the meantime, I am enjoying taking my time to take it easy. The house has never been so organised! All of a sudden I had time to enjoy nesting. It has also been great to hang out with the kids and just be.

It has been a reminder of what is needed in my life.

I am back now and keen to continue with Miracle Beginnings and blogging away!

xx

Loving Fridays my child free day!

2010-06-17T21:14:00.001-07:00

I love my kids more than life itself, however..........by the end of the week, it's time for a break! I am lucky enough that my wonderful mother in law collects all three kids from school on a Friday, which leaves me a full day to get "Stuff" done!

I love Fridays, as I know, this is my one day that I can catch up on the week and get organised for the week approaching.

I do the grocery shopping, exercise, work in the office, tidy up my desk, get on top of the household duties, work on finances, plan in advance and basically get organised. I also sneak in time to watch Oprah, chat on the phone, go for a quick pedicure and have a cuppa on the balcony in peace! A great way to start the weekend x

Family Values

2010-06-10T22:31:00.000-07:00

A family tradition that has been passed on through the generations in my family is always sitting at the table to share a meal. As kids, Mum and Dad always insisted on sitting with the family in the evening with no tv on or in the background. When I met Scott, his family would more often than not eat dinner infront of the telly or have it on as part of the conversation. To be in his enviornment was a treat for me to sit and eat infront of the telly!

In this photo, we are on holidays with my family enjoying a home cooked meal of gnocchi - made the true Italian way!

As we have created our own family, we sit down with the kids every night at the dinner table to share our evening meal. Even when the kids were babies, we would always sit them at the table to include them in the tradition. Even when the kids would only sit still for five minutes, we would still enjoy the time at the table.

Lukas adores sitting at the table with the family. He loves eating, sharing, tasting and talking. All at the age of three. I love that this value is already instilled in his life.

Just this week, I was speaking with a mum of five who was serving me in a shop. I was asking what her secret was to ensure there is a special bond between the family as the kids grow. Her advice was they always had dinner together as a family around the table. She explained that now the kids are older, there are boyfriends, girlfriends and housemates all joining in on the tradition. You could see the pride in her eyes as she was telling me all the details. It made us both a little teary as we both understood the true meaning of the conversation.

Up to early?

2010-06-08T17:28:00.000-07:00

Reluctantly, I dragged myself out of bed this morning at 6.30am to pound the pavement! The husband was gently encouraging me whilst I whinged the whole time I was tying up my shoes and putting on my beanie.

I decided to get up in the mornings to go for my run. It is a great way to start the day and then I know the task of exercise is done for the day. All great in theory! Why do I start these ideas in the middle of winter????????????

I plugged in my ipod, pumped up PINK and went off. To my surprise, it was busy out there at that time of the morning. The builders had already started hammering (with their bum cracks on display - cold!!), people were off to work, people were exercising and dogs were being walked.

I actually surprised myself and started to enjoy the early morning freshness and the sound of silence. I forgot about being so cold and feeling tired. I found a spring in my step and powered for 20 minutes.

Let's just hope I remember this wonderful moment for the inspiration I will need to get out of bed tomorrow!

The best give a Mum can give herself

2010-06-08T17:24:00.001-07:00

I read an article recently about what the best gift a mum can give herself and the writer suggested 'Boundaries".....what an AHA moment.

With boundaries we can get in control of lives and step off the mouse wheel. As mum's we are constantly busy with every part of our children's lives, the husband's needs, the running of the house, keeping up with social engagements, nurturing friendships, exercising, cooking dinner, working a full time/part time job and trying to look our best everyday. At some point, we need to put on the breaks and STOP!

Boundaries are the answer. When I really think about it, we are in control of our busyness. We make the choices to fit it all in. I battle with boundaries all the time. However, I have created a sign to hang up on the fridge to remind me that Boundaries is the gift I give to myself every day!

Girls Weekend Away

2010-06-03T23:27:00.000-07:00

Need I say more! We had a fab time away in Avalon with 8 amazing women who all have their own stories through life. Loved every minute! I returned a happier woman after shopping, eating, drinking bubbles, dancing, laughing and chatting till late hours of the night. A must for every woman, especially mothers. Time out is required to get through the next stage of life with patience and gratitude!

Rainy days - look out for the rainbow

2010-06-03T23:05:00.000-07:00

The weather in Sydney has been unbelievable. Rainy days seem to be endless. Although, I do enjoy the excuse to stay indoors and eat yummy food.

I have had an interesting week with my own rainy days, however, have been lucky enough to start to see some rainbows.

Firstly, after all the emotional stress and concern for Hanna, we have seen a break through. She is an amazing kid that understands so much more than she should for her wise age of 7. This strength has pulled her through the challenge of anxiety. Hanna discussed her homework from her "Can Do Kids" session this week and I had to hold back my tears of pride. She beamed with confidence whilst explaining her achievements. A beautiful rainbow, the best of all.

Then, Scott and I had some challenges with growth of his business and finding the balance with family and work. I found it really hard to express myself, so decided to ignore him for a few days (PLUS, I was menstrual!)....lucky enough we know each other too well and gave each other space. The rainbow appeared last night when we sat down with a bottle of red wine, a delicious cheese platter and eyeballed each other with the truth. It's amazing what communication can do!

I also found myself at the end of a crap week with my health.....I stuck to the plan of looking after me and guess what, another rainbow. I am starting to feel back to normal with energy!

I am looking forward to a weekend of rainy days and just relaxing with friends and family x

Your body does not lie, not even to yourself!

2010-05-30T23:16:00.000-07:00

You know when you think you are coping with all that happens in life and all of sudden there is a physical reminder that you may not be as on top of things as you think you are......

Well, last week I developed a cold sore. Never had one in my life! All of sudden this growth appeared on my lip. I ran into the chemist to ask what it was and how could I get rid of it. The lady smiled and handed over the cream with a gentle reminder to take it easy and relax a little.

I thought it was from my cold, which it may be, but the more I read about these ugly things, the more I am realising that my immune is low and I could be a little stressed.

Why does it take a mammoth growth on my lip to stop me in my tracks?? Because I was not taking any notice of any other signs. This week I will get myself back on track by taking lots of vitamins, juicing organic fruits, eating lots of healthy food and getting lots of sleep. OK, and a week free of champagne.

It better work!!

Relaaaaaax!

2010-05-23T01:11:00.000-07:00

I read a quote today in the Sunday paper it read something like this "Its time to relax when you feel like you don't have time to relax".......this weekend we have done nothing but relax! With our social calender chock a block until August, we savoured every moment of doing nothing all weekend.

We baked cookies, read papers, played board games, worked on art, listened to music, watched dvds, I had half an hour to myself in a hot bath and just chilled on the lounge. As Sunday evening approaches I feel like I have been on a weekend retreat.

Note to myself - schedule in off time for weekends. We all benefit from just hanging out and relaxing. Especially leading into yet another busy week!

Cold days & Comfort Food

2010-05-16T23:21:00.000-07:00

It has changed seasons in a day as we embark on the winter, cold months. I am looking forward to the colder months as they somehow give me permission to enjoy comfort foods whilst rugged up on the lounge with a glass of red wine.

A comfort food of mine, which I recently discovered is Macaroni & Cheese. Noooooo, not from a packet, made from scratch with fresh ingredients and lots of love. Next time you feel like a quick meal or some comfort food, whip up this great recipe. It tastes even better with a glass of red wine looking out through a window at a rainy day.....

1.5 cups macaroni
1 tablespoon butter
1 tablespoon flour
250ml milk
80g cheddar cheese grated
a dollop of mustard, salt and pepper

For topping you will need - breadcrumbs, a sprinkle of fresh parsley and extra teaspoon of melted butter

Cook macaroni in boiling water until tender. Melt butter on low hear, stir in flour and milk until thicken. Stir in cheese, mustard, salt and pepper. Place part of the macaroni in oven proof dish and pour over cheese sauce. Add another layer of macaroni and another layer of cheese sauce. Mix breadcrumbs, parsley and extra butter, place on top of mixture. Cook for 20 mins in moderate oven and enjoy!

Chilli Crab Off

2010-05-15T23:44:00.000-07:00

We had a crab off this weekend with fab friends. Out of the three couples there are three wannabe chef's who love to cook. Our mission was to bring to the table the best Chilli Crab Recipe. Oh my, they were delicious!!! We stuffed ourselves to the brim and we were covered in chilli, crab, shell and coriander.

It was such a great way to share a saturday night. We had 7 kids between us all having a ball whilst the adults drank champagne and dived into the divine feast. No need for a restaurant, babysitting or being out in the cold. We had it all! The best part was the friendships we have made with our friends. We feel extremely blessed to be surrounded by like-minded fabulous people who love chilli crab!

Today has been one of those days,,,,

2010-05-12T21:08:00.000-07:00

ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! Today has been one of those days. I have not stopped since the minute I woke up this morning until now.....its amazing how a glass of wine can bring you back down to earth and calm the nerves. I found this photo today and just loved the playfulness of it. It reminds me to stop, breath, breath again and then keep going. It reminds me to not take life to serious. To laugh out loud and to just take a chill pill.

I am off to have another glass of wine ..... and recite "tomorrow is another day!!!"

Mother of Nine Kids - what's is her secret to her sanity?

2010-05-11T14:51:00.000-07:00

I recently read an article about a woman who has nine children, yes, nine! And all 18 months apart.

As you would expect, this women has to be extremely organised with the day to day operations of the house, the kids, schooling, meals, activities and everything else you can imagine. Very busy woman!

However, her secret to her sanity is forcing herself to have one hour to herself everyday. In this time, she would choose to either go for a walk, read a magazine with a cuppa, go get her nails done, sleep or just do nothing at all. The key is that she does not do anything for anyone else in that hour, does not respond to emails or phone messages, pay bills, sort the washing or cook dinner. This one hour of her day keeps her going each day. At the beginning of each day she decides when the hour will be and sticks to it - nothing gets in her way.

If you ask me, this is fantastic advice...if a mother of nine can spare an hour a day for herself, we have no excuses to not give this to ourselves.

Three months and counting...

2010-05-10T21:16:00.000-07:00

My girlfriend just recently found herself in hospital at 25 weeks pregnant and has been instructed to lay on her back for the next three months until her baby arrives. Its a tough gig!

She lives in LA, which is a little hard for me to visit at the moment, so we have committed to weekly phone calls. It brings back so many memories of when I was in for hospital for all that time. It felt like it would never end.

It truly does make you appreciate the miracle of pregnancy and having babies. It is easy to take for granted that you are pregnant for 9 months, you have a baby and you go home. However, it is becoming far more less common for this to happen in a perfect order.

The lesson I learnt when I was faced with my challenges of pregnancy and babies was that if I could make it through, I would be able to take on and break through anything. It has become a mantra of my being.

A Star is born

2010-05-05T18:31:00.000-07:00

Kye started at NIDA last weekend. He was jumping out of his skin. Watch this space, who knows what is going to come out this experience.......all I know is that this little man is going to be something big in everyway!

Connection with Women...

2010-05-05T18:26:00.001-07:00

Yesterday, I found myself sitting outside a door. Inside the door was my Hanna with a group of kids talking about their feelings and fears. Outside of the door was a mum who felt sick in her stomach from anxiety and fear just praying Hanna would love the session and want to stick it out for the next 6 weeks.

I was fortunate enought to find myself chatting with two other mum's who are going through the same stage with their son and daughter. We all clicked and related with what we had to share. I felt an instant sense of relief that it was all going to be ok. It was so lovely to connect with these two women on a level that is so hard to understand. We explained how we have looked at ourselves as mothers to understand what has happened to make our children have this level of anxeity. It always comes back to mother guilt. Fortunately, we all agreed, that we had tried so many ways to help them and that we are doing the best we can by introducing to a group of kids who feel the same way. It was reassuring.

The best part....Han ran out with a huge sense of relief. She gave me a big hug and told me she loved the session and cant wait to go back next week. Neither can I!

Parenting is a hard gig!

2010-05-02T00:05:00.001-07:00

Gosh, we have had an interesting week......just when you think life is settling down a little as we move away from the baby stage with Lukas turning 3 yesterday, we had a huge challenge arrive as we enter the stage of our daughter growing up.

Parenting just keeps you on your toes constantly. You can never become complacent. I am always learning, reading, watching, asking and receiving information on how to support my children the best way possible through their years of growing into young adults.

Hanna has recently started to experience high anxiety with her school work, all through pressure which has placed on herself. She is experiencing sleepless nights, mild panic attacks, lots of tears, sick in the tummy and fear of failure. It is such a young age to feel all these feelings.

I sat down with her last week and we wrote an open heart felt letter to her teacher explaining her feelings. We also created a worry box for both of us to write down our worries of the day and place in the box to chat about at bed time. And we wrote affirmations which are stuck on her mirror to remind her everyday how wonderful she is.

I was also fortunate enough to find a Kids Anxiety Group called "Can Do Kids" which runs for 8 weeks and helps kids understand their fears/anxiety and they coach them on how to handle it all in their own way. As you can tell, I was on a mission to help Hanna in any was possible as it broke my heart to see her this way.

All of sudden she changed from a bubbly little girl with no worries in the world to a seven year old who has placed too much pressure on herself and worries about everything.

My role as her mum is to help her discover that we can balance her feelings and emotion to make her embrace the world as a seven year old little girl. To look back at this time, when Han is a teenager taking on challenges in life and know that she learnt the skill at this time, will be very rewarding and I will know that my role as her mum has been fulfilled.

Running off Easter Eggs

2010-04-21T00:29:00.000-07:00

As you may know I am not a lover of exercise. I have been on a mission since last year to enjoy it and accept that exercise needs to be in my life whether I like or not. Last year I met my wonderful trainer Col (one our experts on Miracle Beginnings website) who put together a program for weights and cardio which I could do indoors to not allow excuses of not being able to find time. I loved it! I worked out 5 days a week. My arms toned up, my bum gained shape and the muffin top was slowing disappearing and then Christmas came along. I stopped. I lost motivation.

Since then I have been on and off with no commitment. I started yoga about 7 weeks ago and absolutely love it, however, felt that I needed to add another element to my exercising to get fit and toned. Whilst thinking about what my plan may be, Easter came along!!! I am not a great fan of chocolate. If I had a choice of cheese or chocolate, I would gooble a cheese platter all to myself.

So why am I addicted to the easter eggs that are not even mine! Its because they are there staring at me in the cupboard everyday!! So my exercise plan needed to get a move on before I turned into an easter egg!

I asked for advice from my husband (the fitness professional) and he suggested incorporating more yoga, a circuit using my own body weight and to take up running. Well, I laughed out loud, I have never even contemplating running. But he assured me its the quickest way to get results.

So I started running!!! I could not walk the for three days after my first run and let me clarify I am not running kilometres. I walk/run. However, after a few times, I am actually enjoying it. I am running more and to a further distance.

The only thing now is I need a running bra before my boobs cause damage! They get in the way, they bounce around everywhere and flop out all over the place. Not a pretty sight but at least I am trying and working off the easter eggs!!!

Lukas turning 3

2010-04-19T02:53:00.000-07:00

I cant believe Lu is 3 next week. Time has flown from the moment he was born. He has never really been a baby, as he was determined from a baby to keep up with his brother and sister. He will not allow us to treat him any different and god help us if we do, he let's us know about it.

He is so excited about turning three and lets everyone know that he wants a kitchen, a motorbike and a rocketship for his birthday.

I know I have said it before, but I honestly look a Lu everyday and thank god for allowing me to have a full term baby who has taught me so much in his three years of life. He brings so much joy to our family. It is unimaginable to think of him not being here with us.

Girls Night Out

2010-04-19T02:48:00.000-07:00

On Friday night I went out for a long overdue night out with my closest friends. What a night! Upon waking the next day, my stomach muscles were aching as well as my head from the laughter and champagne from the night.

I always feel re-energised from spending time with the girls. We all need the break from kids, husbands, work and life. By meeting together to share a meal, a boogie and bottles of champagne we solve the problems of the world.

Never let your girlfriends slide, that is your true girlfriends. They will always be there for you through thick and thin. Just remember to nurture your friendships as they need maintaining through love, care and honesty.

Cant wait for the next catch up in a few months xx

Celebrations All Round..

2010-04-11T02:21:00.000-07:00

We have had a wonderful weekend with the surprise engagement of my brother to his german chicky babe on the weekend! Although, I knew all about the surprise and was in on the act.

I whisked Pam off for the afternoon at Aveda Day Spa in Paddington for some serious girlie time whilst my brother prepared for the evening celebrations. Pam had absolutely no idea! I delivered her to my brother who was waiting by the hired yacht and they sailed off into the sunset.

Today we met them for lunch as they returned to shore. It was just wonderful, such a special day for them. Not having a sister and Pam being the only child, I am so excited to have a new sister in the family. Pam is so much fun especially after a few wines and understanding her german accent!

Phil and Me

2010-04-08T21:54:00.000-07:00

Last night my gorgeous friend Phil invited herself over to cook me a delicious dinner and adult chit chat. Very much needed when the husband is away.

Phil cooked up a storm serving barramundi with kaffir lime coconut sauce and ginger infused kumara mash. I was in charge of wine and dessert, easy option!

We chatted until 1am this morning, listening to each other's stuff that is happening in our life. I am so lucky to have met this special lady as we are on the same wavelength, totally understand each other and are always honest.

This is us in Las Vegas last year attending a Women's Conference at the Venetian Hotel. I think we had been up the night before talking till very late as we both look a little tired!

Phil is a super woman who I admire. Surround yourself with women like this and it will make a huge difference to your life!

The husband is off to London....

2010-04-06T23:30:00.000-07:00

The husband flew off to London today (as you do!). He is will be a key note speaker at the largest European Fitness Conference & Expo this weekend. Kye and I were very lucky to join him this time two years ago. I often reflect on that trip away as we were very lucky to travel overseas with the husband for work and to have special time with Kye one on one.

This is a photo of Kye overlooking the park in Paris. We popped over there for the weekend. Kye had an absolute ball and loved all of our attention. It was like a special treat for him after his rough start to life.

After dropping off the husband to the airport today, Kye cried all the way home. He just wanted to be on that plane with him and experience it all again. I secretly felt the same!

Oh well, back to cooking dinner and washing down the three kids.......a women's day never ends!

Woman Warrior

2010-04-02T22:27:00.000-07:00

Have you ever met a Woman Warrior? A woman who takes control of her life, gets on a mission, creates an awesome life after life changing challenges and who loves life to the maximum! If not, you need to meet someone like this, as they are infectious in the best way possible.

This is a photo of Colleen, a Woman Warrior and I (Kye snuck in for the photo) at dinner a few weeks ago. If you are familiar with our website, you would recognise her face from our Experts page, as Colleen helps our readers with exercise, wellness and everything else!

For our members, you would have heard Colleen's amazing, inspiring story from our audio program. I need say no more.

It's funny this old life of ours. It throws us curve balls to test us. Col has had her fair share of lessons that she has had to work through in her lifetime thus far. The best part is that she has come through the other side and created the best life possible. Such an inspiration to us all.

I was also fortunate to meet her gorgeous son Koen just a few weeks ago. He is a product of her love, commitment, belief and determination. He is a great kid with an awesome mum who made a decision to get on with life in a positive way which has impacted Koen in the best way possible.

I am so grateful Col has turned up in my life, she is a true blessing.

How do we fit in our time when we are soooo busy!

2010-04-02T22:16:00.000-07:00

My life seems to be really busy at the moment. Not sure what it is - whether I am missing laying by the pool on holidays last week and can't keep up with the Sydney pace, which I easily forgot about whilst away in QLD. Or is because the kids need more of me and I am juggling business, motherhood, wife, friendships and at the bottom of the list, me!

My saving grace has been my commitment to Yoga. I decided at the beginning of this year, I was on a mission to achieve ultimate well being this year. One of my challenges was finding time for to attend yoga once a week.

Once Lu was off at school, I committed to one day a week for 1.5 hours to attend Iyengar Yoga. Our specialist for yoga on the Miracle Beginnings website is my teacher. From the moment I started, I knew this was the right time for me to immerse myself in the practice of yoga. I have tried more than a dozen times to find the right teachings, the right teacher, the right class, but it never really worked for me.

It all has to do with timing. I was ready.

There are times when my yoga day arrives and I can think of 100 things I should be doing on that day. However, I tell myself to get stuffed and that we are off to Yoga. Once I am there, I forget about the outside world. I am even starting to do Yoga at home, can you believe it!!

My message is that we are all so bloody busy being busy. If we just find a little room for ourselves to commit to something we love, it will work. We are busy anyway, the world can wait, emails and phone calls can wait, the kids and husband can wait, because guess what, they will all be there waiting for you when you walk back in the door. The difference being is that you will feel fulfillment because you did something for yourself!

Helping other women

2010-03-30T03:01:00.000-07:00

Whilst I was away I received a gorgeous text from a friend who had recommended my book to a new mum with a premmie baby. The feedback was priceless. The new mum loved the book and passed on her thanks for having a guideline to get her through her difficult time. I just love hearing this feedback, as this is the reason why I wrote the book.

A well deserved break!

2010-03-30T02:49:00.000-07:00

We have just arrived home from a well deserved break from Salt, Kingscliff. It was a great time away with the kids. The weather was amazing as was the time away from computers, emails an and mobiles. The days would roll into one with our biggest decision being which pool we were going to swim in first.

Now I am back on deck feeling rejuvenated and refreshed! Ready to get stuck back into it, well at least after the Easter weekend!

20 Year School Reunion......

2010-03-18T21:51:00.000-07:00

Tonight I will be attending my 20 year school reunion!!!!!!!!! It has been 20 years since we were at school in Year 10. I went to an all girls school, which means tonight will be a room filled with women from all walks of life. Luckily, I am going with my two old school friends who are still very close to me. We are little nervous, not sure what to expect! Will let you know how I go xx

Homemade Face Masks - simple recipes to make tonight

2010-03-14T22:48:00.001-07:00

Tonight, you need to lock yourself in the bathroom and smother your face in one of these gorgeous face masks. Lie in a hot bath. Read a magazine or a great book and chill for a minimum of 15 minutes!

Avo and Honey mask
A classic recipe for dry skin. Mash the avocado in a bowl, then stir in honey.Apply to skin and leave for 10 minutes. Rinse face with a cool washcloth.

Natural exfoliant
Mix a tiny amount of brown sugar with olive oil in your palm. Once it turns into a paste, massage into your face.

Banana Mask for wrinkles
Mash 1/4 banana until very creamy and apply on face and leave for 15-20 minutes. Rinse with warm water, then use cold water to close the pores

ENJOY!

Stand in your Power

2010-03-13T20:27:00.000-08:00

I was recently reading about an amazing woman who inspiring in many ways. One of her mantra's is to encourage women to "stand in your power".

I love this! It means stand strong in your strength to make clear decisions in your life. We can apply this in every area of our lives. The only tricky part is that we need to believe in our power.

When we peel back the layers, we need to find our inner strength and belief to really back ourselves. You have nothing to lose, give it a go, really believe in your strength, stand in your power and make the best choices possible for a great life!

What have you done today to make you feel proud?

2010-03-13T20:23:00.000-08:00

Do you know this great song called "Proud" - the main line is "what have you done today to make you feel proud?". It's a woman's anthem about doing something for yourself each day that you are proud of.....whath is your "something" that you have done today.....mine, laying on the day bed reading the papers in the sun with a cup of peppermint tea. If you have not enjoyed something for yourself today, you still have time.....go for it!!

Flash Back....

2010-03-04T12:30:00.000-08:00

Last Tuesday night, I flicked on the telly just for a few minutes to sit down and relax. Greys Anatomy was on, a show I had heard of but was yet to watch.

To my surprise, there was a scene with the arrival of a 30 week premmie and she was placed in Special Care. The baby was so tiny, so tiny that is actually frightened me to see a baby so small. Then I remembered that Kye was the same size.

The story line was beautiful. Due to complications, the baby was about to take her last breath and the male doctor held her close to his chest so she would not be alone. In an instant the baby's heartbeat started to stabilise as did her oxygen levels. Another doctor came over and told the male doctor that he was practicing Kangaroo Care. She suggested he take of his shirt and hold the baby close to his heart for her to survive.

This is what I am doing with Kye in the middle photo. Whenever we would practice Kangaroo Care, his oxygen levels and heartbeat would be perfect. I would sit there for hours on end.

Visitors peering in through the glass windows of Special Care would often do a double take to see if I was really holding a baby.

I wrote about how important Kangaroo Care is for prem babies in my book. But you know what, it was just as important for me, as a mum of a prem. I was able to hold my baby just for that moment and I was able to help him survive. It gave me purpose when on most days I felt like I had none.

Lu is off and running

2010-02-24T19:33:00.000-08:00

Just had to show this photo...Lukas started at his school yesterday! Huge moment for the family. I feel lost without him. So proud of our little man xxx

Never done

2010-02-24T19:01:00.000-08:00

".....never done" womens work in the house!
I took the kids to the Power House Museum last weekend and just loved this section. They have dedicated an exhibition of housework from early 1900's up until today. I love another sign that was at the entrance it read "Housework is only noticed when it is not done! We dedicated this exhibition to the women who are always cleaning!".

What is Your Purpose?

2010-02-19T14:26:00.000-08:00

We all need a purpose in life! Before I had children, I thought my purpose was to cook for 1000's of people through my catering business. When I was cooking, creating, running the business, I was in my element and there were days I had to pinch myself to make sure it was all real, I was living my dream that I had created.

But then, it all changed. The force of the change came so quickly that I was confused! It happened when I was away in Italy (of course it did, where else would you rather this happen). I had travelled o/s with my parents and Hanna who was 19mths old. Scott had just changed careers and it was impossible for him to get away. It was the first time I had a holiday with no communication from my catering business. It was the first time I had let go.

I was on a boat sailing through Lake Como and I just felt a decision had been made for me. I kept it to myself and thought about it for the rest of my trip.

When I arrived home, I sat Scott down and explained what had happened. I told him that being with Hanna full time for 2 weeks was the most amazing experience ever and I wanted that every day of my life. I told him I was ready to sell my catering business and become a full time mother.

Well, the surprise on Scott's face was priceless. Here I was telling him I wanted to be a full time mother, when I had worked my arse off for years building this business against all odds and it became my sole purpose.

From this moment, I just knew that my purpose was to be with my children especially when they were so young. I did not want to work full time and try and even balance that act, as for me, it was not working.

The lesson, listen to your gut instinct!

After this conversation with Scott, we put the business on the market and eight months later I was pregnant with Kye. The day we exchanged contracts with the new owners was the night I found myself just 28 weeks pregnant in the toilet surrounded by blood (the story is in my book).

The timing of me letting go of my business was the most amazing crossroad of my life, because that night I started the journey of Kye's premature birth and the long windy road to recovery. I would have had a nervous breakdown trying to juggle business and the journey of Kye.

It was only two years ago that I found myself a business which operated one day a week, as it was time to find something for me. However, I was very clear on the boundaries, working from home, one day a week, minimal work.

As a woman, we need something other than our children's lives whether it be working a few days per week, running a small business or committing to a hobby/interest that we love. But as a woman, we also need to know that our babies need us and that within itself is a purpose and a full time job to be proud of!

Holding Hands...

2010-02-18T19:19:00.000-08:00

I love this photo. Lukas is holding my hand on our way to the airport last month. Look how gorgeous his hand is....he was holding on for his security and comfort. He tends to do this more often than Han and Kye, I love it. We have a very special connection.

Lukas seems so much more mature than his ripe old age of 2.

He always opens the door when I get home and helps me carry in shopping or bags from the car. At a bbq recently, he helped himself to the buffet and served me a plate full of food. He was so proud of himself, as was I! He is always with me and makes sure I am ok in his beautiful way. Come to think of it, I tend to hold his hand for my own comfort.

Lukas has been such a wonderful influence in my life thus far. I can't wait to see what the years develop and watch him succeed in life. I am so grateful I had the opportunity to conceive when all the odds were against us.

Valentines Day

2010-02-12T14:07:00.001-08:00

Last night I received a gorgeous surprise at my front door.

The husband is away at the moment for business. I really miss him when he is gone and count the days to when he will be back.

As we have been together for nearly 19 years, Valentines Day has changed since the early years of going to restaurants, flowers, chocolates and stuffed toys. We progressed to cards, home cooked dinners and remembering that the meaning of Valentines Day should be in our marriage every day not just that one particular event!

So, when I found a gorgeous red box at my front door step I screamed and questioned "who has sent this?".

Scott had arranged for 12 long stemmed yellow roses (my fav colour), chocolates and bottle of Bayleys to be delivered in sexy red box with a gorgeous card. He never ceases to amaze me!

When I spoke to him last night to thank him, he explained that the gift means so much more than Valentines Day ...... and it does. I just feel very thankful that we are still Valentines after all these years.

The Brady Bunch

2010-02-12T13:55:00.000-08:00

My sister in law recently gave me the box set of the Brady Bunch, on favourite of mine from when I was a kid. I remember watching the Brady Bunch every night before dinner and wishing I could be in their family.

Now I am watching the show from a different perspective - I want Alice living with me full time!!!!!

Can you imagine life with a full time cleaner, cook and second hand around the house? This allows Carol Brady to look after her children with 100% attention, love her husband and always be around for him, go shopping, lunching with friends and enjoy her hobby of sewing. No wonder she was always a happy wife with no complaints or stress in her day to day life.

Realistically, most of us can not Alice living with us on a full time basis BUT we can organise a little bit of Alice every week or fortnight to help us with the day to day life of being a mother.

The one area I really dislike is cleaning!!! I would rather cook for 1000 people then clean my house. I am house proud and love to decorate, but to scrub a toilet does not bring me the same pleasure.

So for years I have had a housekeeper clean my house every fortnight. There have been times when we did not have the extra money, so I would place her on on hold until we had the extra funds.

The day that our house is cleaned is always a happy day in our house. I love walking into a clean house knowing it has been cleaned properly! For me to maintain the cleanliness is bearable as I know it will be cleaned again in a fortnight.

I encourage you to give it a go. Just make sure the cleaner can clean better than you otherwise you feel like you are wasting your money as you could do it yourself! Start with once a month and then gradually book every fortnight. I would rather cut back on take away, coffees, spending to save for my weekly clean. As this gives me so much more pleasure and sanity!

WICKED

2010-02-04T20:18:00.000-08:00

We have a star to be in our family - Kye!
Kye adores musicals, dressing up and acting out all characters. One minute he is Cinderella, the next he is Superman.
For Christmas, Scott surprised Kye and I with tickets to WICKED. We were so excited.

It was a fabulous day. The three of us had a ball and it was so lovely to spend time with Kye on his own. When the show started, he did not move one inch until the show was finished, except of course to buy a wicked glowing glass during the break! He was enthralled with the stage, the costumes, the songs, the story and the actors. During the first half, he asked if I could ask Glenda (the good witch) if he could go on stage!!

Kye has taught us so much in his early years of life. One of the biggest life lessons he has taught us thus far is to be confident with what you love to do and don;t let anyone stop you from doing so!

I cant wait to see Kye on Broadway and for our family to be sitting in the front row applauding his performance. How lucky is he to have found his path in life at such a young age as there are so many adults still trying to sort out what path to take.

Growing before my eyes

2010-02-04T20:03:00.001-08:00

We have just returned from a very special family holiday. It was priceless. Scott and I watched in amazement at the development and growth of Han, Kye and Lu in just a week of being together with no interruptions.

Time is flying by so quickly and in amongst the busyness of being busy we often do not have the time to watch the growth of our kids. Sure, we see them grow in height and other physical aspects, but to watch them grow emotionally and achieve milestones is an awesome experience.

A family holiday is a must for every family. It does not have to be an expensive trip. It just has to be time together. Your kids will thrive on the excitement and love the time together.

A tip = try and lock in a holiday once a quarter for a weekend or a week. If you are too busy and can not get away, start to adjust your priorities, remember, your family is your foundation of life.

Reward yourself

2010-01-19T21:57:00.000-08:00

This is my baby, well, toddler, well nearly 3 year old Lukas! He is so cute I could eat him!!!

We just found out that Lukas has been accepted to attend our children's school and he starts at the end of February. Our school is a wonderful place of learning, however, the only requirement they do have is that children start from the age of three and attend five mornings a week.

When Hanna started at three years of age, I was reluctant to send her as I felt it was too much for her. However, when I observed how much fun she was having, I questioned my reluctance was based on what I thought not what she needed.

Then Kye started at three and I was ready for him to go five mornings a week. He was ready to explore and needed other people in his life beside Scott and I.

Now, its Lukas time to attend school. He is starting a few months short of turning three years old, but my big boy is more ready than any of his siblings. He is already walking around the house with his school bag and asks if he is going to school "today". He even decided to become toilet trained in 2 days because he knew this was the deal to be able to go to school.

As he is my last baby, I am hesitant in cutting the umbilical cord, but know that it is the right decision for Lukas. He is going to have a ball!

A girlfriend asked me yesterday how I planned to celebrate on the day that Lukas starts school. I was not sure what she meant, so I asked her. She explained that I should book in a massage or a treatment to celebrate the last child going off to school. She went on to tell me that I have done a wonderful job raising all three kids to this point and now its time to let them go and congratulate myself on the hard work involved.

Now, who would have thought of it this way! I was so impressed and thanked her for her wisdom and encouragement to celebrate the past 7 years of raising kids and entering the exciting new phase of our lives.

If you have a child starting school this year, take on this advice as well and book yourself in for a treat! We all deserve it.

What will 2010 bring....

2010-01-12T21:41:00.000-08:00

Welcome to 2010! This is Scott and I on the veranda of our holiday house down the South Coast on New Years Eve. The sunset is magic. I like to think it is glowing over us with good luck, happiness and health for the year ahead.

The beginning of the year is always a great time to sit down and set goals for what you really want to achieve out of your life. For mum's, it is time to become a little selfish and do something for you. Whether this is committing to exercise, taking a long bath once a week, going for a manicure once a month, starting yoga, trying meditation or booking yourself time to be with yourself once a week to have a coffee and read a magazine.

We all seem to busy to ever do anything that feels indulgent or selfish, but the secret is that everyone including ourselves benefit from taking time out to re-energise. The kids can wait, the house can wait, the husband can wait and the bloody mobile phone and emails can wait.

Make a pact with yourself right now to do the one thing you love to do once a week and stick to it!

I am very excited to watching Miracle Beginnings evolve into what the vision has been all along to help women get through their tough times through premature births as well as the women who have lost their spark and need reigniting. We have huge plans to bring joy, wisdom, laughter and confidence into your life this year.....hold on and enjoy the ride!!

Kye's facination with Santa...

2009-12-20T21:42:00.000-08:00

We recently went to a Reptile Party located near the Central Coast for a family Christmas Party.
Santa was attending a corporate function located near us and he was very busy with the kids.

Kye spotted him and waited patiently for him to say goodbye to his crowd and make his away to leave the park. As he was leaving, Kye ran up to him and introduced himself. He asked him very politely if his elves were magic and could he please have a "Sleeping Beauty Dress".

Santa was so kind and took the time to answer his questions and confirm a Sleeping Beauty Dress was on his list for Kye.

Kye gave him a hug hugged to thank him and smiled from ear to ear. The Christmas Spirit had touched him through a kind man who took the time to speak with our boy.

I can't wait till they are a little older to show them the most important side of Christmas, the gift of giving and the gift of helping others less fortunate. However, at 4 years old, our boy Kye is in his glory knowing that his Sleeping Beauty Dress is on the way......

Eating with out guilt!

2009-12-20T21:37:00.000-08:00

I opened up the paper yesterday to be bombarded with "How to stay thin over Christmas" campaigns! How sad.

No wonder we all eat with guilt at this time of year with the media on our backs to keep in shape, to not overindulge and to watch our waistline.

My reply - eat what you want! All year we are conscious of what we eat and when we eat it. I personally have worked too damn hard in the exercise department to deprive myself! In saying that, I have eaten too many gluten free mince tarts today and feel a little ill.

See what happens when you deny yourself of yummy treats, you binge when you have the opportunity!! Well, maybe just I do that!!

So, you have my permission to eat all you want and enjoy it without guilt. We all start a diet on 1 January (that lasts one week), so lets just enjoy the yummy Christmas food whilst we are in the festive season.

Reflection....

2009-12-20T21:24:00.000-08:00

This time of year is the best! I love the build up, the excitement, the kids, the sound of people having a great time, all the yummy food and of course, the bubbles of champagne! This is us decorating our fresh Christmas tree. So much fun!

Its also a great time of year to reflect at the year that was. We achieve so much in a year that we deserve the acknowledgement to ourselves and a pat on the back.

Take the time right now, just to think about all that you have achieved. Its also a great opportunity to be grateful for all that you have. I was told today that the Salvos in Surry Hills host a Christmas Lunch on Christmas Day for 1500 homeless people and this is now including families who have a car and a mortgage, but no money for food or gifts because they have been retrenched. For those of us who have food on the table, presents under the tree, family to be with, our good health and a roof over our heads, we have so much to be grateful for.

Breathing Space

2009-12-09T12:27:00.001-08:00

Don't you wish you could sit in this chair for an hour and just breath! Take 10 deep breaths. Stop and think about nothing. Now go on with a slower pace - if you find yourself rushing, come back t this picture xxx

Christmas - a time to be grateful!

2009-12-08T15:42:00.000-08:00

Christmas is the best time of year! I love the excitement of it all, especially with the kids and all the traditional activities we do to create the excitement.

I was just recently watching an amazing documentary when Oprah visited South Africa and agve 12,000 gifts to orphaned children. She created winter wonderlands, Christmas celebrations and memories the children would never forget.

These dear little children are often left alone in their huts when their parents die of AIDS. They take care of themselves, feed themselves and are in survival mode everyday. Oprah's gifts included shoes, clothes, school books, pencils, soccer balls, dolls - all of which the children have never owned before.

The visit made such an impact on their lives, but even more so an impact on the viewers lives. I was touched by the generosity from Oprah and the gratefulness of the children. It gave perspective on the meaning of Christmas.

At this time of year, I really feel its a time of gratitude. To be grateful for what we have, for our families, for our health, for our hardships, for our great times and for ourselves. At some point this Christmas, take a moment to light a candle and be still. Take time to be grateful and enjoy your Christmas!

How is your Self-Esteem?

2009-12-08T15:22:00.001-08:00

This is Amanda and I on our girls weekend earlier this year. Amanda is in the front of the photo. For the people who have read my book, you will know that Amanda is my rock and gives so much to our friendship. Over the years, I have watched her self-esteem flourish and develop into a strong, independent woman.

At different points of our lives, our self-esteem can be affected with or without us knowing. I believe, self-esteem is an ongoing development within us all. We need to read more books, listen to more women and really see what is going on within ourselves to ensure we have a strong self-esteem. Once we have this, decisions, focus and our paths will become easier and more natural.

Ask this question - "How do I feel about who I am".

I found this fantastic summary from a book called "How to Raise Your Self Esteem" By Stanley Gross

"Low self-esteem is a negative evaluation of oneself. This type of evaluation usually occurs when some circumstance we encounter in our life touches on our sensitivities. We personalize the incident and experience physical, emotional, and cognitive arousal. This is so alarming and confusing that we respond by acting in a self-defeating or self-destructive manner. When that happens, our actions tend to be automatic and impulse-driven; we feel upset or emotionally blocked; our thinking narrows; our self-care deteriorates; we lose our sense of self; we focus on being in control and become self-absorbed"

Will leave this one with you to think about...

I need to let it out!

2009-12-08T15:07:00.001-08:00

I just need to let it out!! Our dog DUKE is nearly 13 years old. Cute and Scary, would not hurt a fly.

Scott had always wanted a dog, so just after we were married he found Duke at the pound.

10 years on, he is driving me crazy! And turning into an extremely cranky old man who is deaf.

When Scott is away for business, Duke plays up in every way possible.

Last night for example, he got himself stuck under the house after racing in their from the thunderstorm. It was 2am in the morning and he was crying out (he is also deaf, so you can imagine how loud he is when he cant hear himself!).

Just 2 weeks ago, Duke found himself stuck in all sorts of areas in the backyard every night Scott was away. Always in the middle of the night!!!! Is this for attention? Does he know his favourite owner is away and its his turn to get me back for keeping outside on a permanent basis?

People ask how I cope when Scott is away with three kids, my reply, EASY, its the stinking dog that causes me grief!!!!!!!

Thanks for listening! Now I feel guilty and will go give Duke a bone.

The word is spreading...

2009-12-07T17:30:00.000-08:00

It has been 2 months since Miracle Beginnings, the book was published and launched to the public. Looking back on the past few months, it feels like a lifetime that I started writing the book.

I am thrilled to update you all that the book is selling extremely well and has plans to be around for a long time!

The best moments are when I receive emails from strangers or friends asking to buy a copy for their friend or a friend of a friend as they know they need to read the book to get through their tough times.

We have a new series coming out next year of Miracle Beginning Books - stay tuned!

Women need women

2009-12-02T01:24:00.000-08:00

I am so grateful for my girlfriends! They make my world a better place. This week I have been very busy catching up with my girlfriends one on one for special time. I love this time, as the plan is to have a indepth chat about what is happening in our lives whether it be good or bad.

All my sessions with my girlfriends this week have been priceless. After a catch up with an old school friend in the afternoon which was so much fun, I stayed up till 1am last night with another girlfriend chatting about life. We laughed so much that we nearly had toilet issues (I am grateful I have had a Cesarean!).

Then today after catching up with an old girlfriend and loving every minute, I met up with a new friend who had text me for some advice and comfort through a difficult time in her life. We listened to each other and bonded over life experience. This special friend had read my book and felt that I could understand what she is going through with the difficult challenges she is facing in her life. It was a privilege to listen and advise my friend, who I know will make it through.

I am excited to be catching up with my soul sister from LA tomorrow night for dinner. I have known her since I was 13 years old and our friendship has evolved into a deeper level than I could ever imagine.

On Friday night, I am catching up with more wonderful friends who share a common interest in the new movie from the Twilight Series "New Moon". Don't ask! I was roped into reading the books, became addicted and now a fan!

When I sit and chat with my girlfriends uninterrupted and with honest, raw emotions, I feel so blessed that I am surrounded by women who are inspiring through their good times and bad.

Women need women! We can all, at some level, understand what we are going through. To listen with both ears is the best gift you can give your friends.

We have choices...

2009-11-25T19:51:00.000-08:00

I am just finalising the details for our December newsletter which is due for release next week and I am so excited to be able to offer a special interview to our members and readers.

I had the pleasure of interviewing one of experts last week. Initially we planned on talking about health and wellness, increasing energy and inspiring mothers to stop the excuses of not looking after themselves.

Instead, our conversation developed into an honest, emotional, inspiring connection about the choices our expert had made in her life to change her life for the better.

The reason why I am so excited about sharing this interview, is that so many of us become victims of our circumstance and allow this to define us as women. Its tricky, when we are in the world of being a victim, its impossible to see the light and clarity to make the right choices.

The key is we need to follow our gut instinct and take a leap of faith. We need to look after ourselves first and foremost to be the best mother and women we can be. We have choices in life and ultimately, they will either lead your life into destruction or into a life of happiness.

You have the choice to choose. Its tough, but the best things in life are not always the easiest to make.

Our wonderful expert who shared her story needs to be congratulated, as she is the voice of so many women in so many ways. Thank you for your honesty, as the truth will set others free.

Hanna turns 7!

2009-11-24T14:34:00.001-08:00

This is my baby girl Hanna who turned 7 last week. Her dream is to be a zoo keeper when she is older and was bursting with excitement to host a reptile party for her friends on the weeekend.

Where has the time flown? It honestly feels like 5 minutes ago that she was born and living in her humicrib. Hanna has come such a long way in her first seven years of her life and it excites me to watch her blossom and grow into a beautiful young lady.

Raising a daughter as a mother is a challenge in a positive way. We want our daughters to be confident and have the strength to take on the world. As well as caring, honest and respectful to themselves and others.

I am sure the next seven years will bring interesting times and events, but I feel that we have created a strong foundation thus far to give her a pretty good head start ...... well, let's hope so anyway!

A great article in our local paper

2009-11-20T18:23:00.001-08:00

It is great to know our local paper supports local businessess and families. Here is an article promoting my book - http://www.theleader.com.au/news/local/news/general/mums-early-births-provides-the-inspiration-to-help-others/1682341.aspx
Enjoy!

2009-11-18T22:33:00.000-08:00

This is a photo of Ali Brown and me in Las Vegas. Ali is an amazing woman who has created an dynamic empire by helping women to create their own independence through operating their own business. I was fortunate enough to attend a VIP Party to celebrate Women in Business and have my photo with Ali.

Returning home from the conference, I have brought with me many ideas and changes to this wonderful concept of Miracle Beginnings. I am so excited about the way the website has evolved and the new additions in the months ahead.

Stay tuned.......the first major change is coming up at the end of this month......

Allocate One Day to Chill

2009-11-17T18:25:00.000-08:00

One of my goals when I returned back from holidays, was to allow one day off during the week that is completely guilt free!

This means no emails, no computer, no phones, no calls, no meetings, no rushing.......working from home as its benefits, but there are some negatives as well, especially if you dont have any boundaries.

The purpose of this new routine is to have a day where I can spend time with my children and also have time for me without trying to send an email when the kids are entertained or return phone calls when they are sleeping. I had not realised how much of this I was doing until I changed the pattern.

So, yesterday was my first day. Do you want to know something - it nearly killed me!!!!!!!!! It was so much harder than I first thought. Jeez, how hard can it be to have a day to relax??? Very hard when you have created a habit....

The day was fantastic! After dropping the kids of to school and kindy, Lukas and I went to Kindy Gym and played. Then we went for coffee and shopping. On arrival back to home, Lukas had a rest. This is normally when I would head to the office and sort out emails, calls, work....instead, I made myself some lunch, watched Oprah, cleaned out my pantry, had a cuppa and read a magazine.....then when the kids came home, we cooked pancakes, made lolly bags and worked on craft.

I usually try to do all of the above and try to fit work in as well. However, I could not believe how much I had achieved in the house, with the kids and for myself all in one day. It felt amazing not to feel obliged to be checking emails and phones. It was tempting at points just to have a quick check......but I had to stick it through and I did.

The best part is that I know by the end of the week I will not feel that I have "worked" every waking hour.....my goal is to continue with this balance and not let the other stuff rule my life...its a work in progress.......

Take a Step Back ......

2009-11-17T18:11:00.000-08:00

I have just returned from Las Vegas and LA with my pal Phil. We had an absolute ball of a time!! It was worth taking a week out from "life" and reassess where I am heading, what needs to change, what needs to be implemented and what needs to be sorted out in all areas of my life.

It was fortunate that I was on the other side of the world with no emails, no phones, no busyiness, no family, no responsibilities and no routine to really take stock of my life.

We attended a conference for Women for 3 days which was HUGE! The day after we shouted ourselves to a relaxing massage and time in the grand day spa where we were staying. After my massage, I found a gorgeous reading spot, which was private and relaxing. There was soothing music playing in the background and I felt wonderful. I look the time to write down my goals for the next year in all areas of my life - business, family, my spirit, finances, house, health and holidays. I wrote for what seemed like hours.

After investing this time in myself (and of course, the holiday helped) I returned home in a calm, clear place. I had stopped my life, stepped out and looked in. It is easy to return back to the chaos of running around, but still a week later, I have maintained my new outlook.

See the next blog for what happens next.....

Mother Guilt....

2009-11-03T02:48:00.000-08:00

Its the night before I fly out to Vegas........and yes, I am feeling mother guilt!!!! Where is the woman who was all excited a few days ago?

It all started with the kids...

Kye told me yesterday that he is going to cry every day that I am gone and will miss me "so much". First stage of mother guilt.

Lu very clingy and demanding, which is unlike him at all. He can most probably feel the anxious levels in the air. Second stage of mother guilt.

Hans told me not to worry about anything, as she will look after the family and make sure everyone behaves. Third stage of mother guilt.

The husband, although supportive and encouraging, has started to become weird and a little stressed. God give me strength!!!!!!!!!! He obviously is starting to feel overwhelmed about working from home, managing the three kids and the house. Is it nasty to say "welcome to my world!".

I just need to breath and keep calm! Last night I sat up and wrote them all notes with a photo of the two of us for each child and the husband. I will leave them on their pillows tonight for them to open before bed.

A gorgeous girlfriend has just sent a text reminding me not to let the mother guilt feeling get in the way of having a fabulous trip. Just over two years ago, she left for 10 days without her kids and husband to climb the great wall of China. She knows exactly how I am feeling. Only another woman would.

However, its time to stand up to the decision I made eight months ago when it felt so easy and now board the plane and enjoy the trip. Thankfully my girlfriend is leaving her kids and husband as well, so we can have a glass of champagne, let it out and get on with the fun.

Onwards and upwards without mother guilt!

See you soon

xxx

Leading up to Las Vegas...

2009-10-29T02:30:00.000-07:00

I am off to Las Vegas next week with a girlfriend for a week. The purpose of the trip is attend a Women's Business Conference, which is just so exciting! We have had this trip booked for months and now as we are in the final countdown, I am feeling a little nervous about it all.

For one, I have only been away for 2 nights from the kids at the most in the seven years of being their mother. We are use to my husband travelling for work, however, for me to leave my domain is a huge step. I will miss them incredibly, but I know, I will return with more patience and more time which is a result of time out for me.

As I check-in to my flight, I will be travelling as myself. Not as a mother or a wife, or as a family. Just me.

Lucky enough I am travelling with a great friend who is just as excited about the whole concept. We are on a mission together to absorb all that we can from the conference, shop as much as we can fit in our suitcase and enjoy our time out with gratitude.

Cant wait to share my travels and stories xx

How time flies by.....

2009-10-25T22:43:00.000-07:00

The middle photo is my favourite photo of Kye and I. When he was stable enough, I would ask the midwives everyday if I could Kangaroo Care my baby. This is when your baby is skin to skin with you and next to your heartbeat. Whenever Kye was in this position his heartbeat, his breathing, his vital signs would all stabilise. It was where he loved to be. I would just stare at him and visualise him growing into a healthy baby. Some days this was hard when we had set backs, but most days, it would be the moment I would look forward to as it would give me hope.

People would walk past Special Care and take a double look to see if Kye was really a baby. He was so tiny, so tiny! It still brings tears to my eyes reflecting back. Tears of the memory of how I felt at the time - scared, uncertain, sad, frustrated and tears because time has enabled my son to grow into a little man full of life and great health.

I am thankful everyday for the recovery and growth Kye has made thus far in life. We have just noticed how much he has grown in the past few months. Its like he is on steriods! His physical development has always been slow which has never concerned us as we always knew it would take some time for him to catch up. But now, he really has grown into a gorgeous little man with long legs. He still has a baby's bum and minimal body fat, but he has a sharp mind, excellent eyesight, great speech and a personality that cracks you up with laughter.

He is my inspiration!

Rainbows

2009-10-23T15:20:00.000-07:00

"The way I see it, if you want a rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain" - Dolly Parton

Baby Miracles

2009-10-22T21:31:00.000-07:00

An extract from my book:

"Baby miracles change people. Mothers learn patience, self-control, endurance and, most of all, unconditional love. For the fathers who are searching for the true meaning of life there is a sudden understanding of what it’s all about"

Read more in the Sydney Morning Herald today:

http://www.essentialbaby.com.au/parenting/baby/miracle-beginnings-20091022-hatw.html?page=-1&s_rid=rainbow:hp4:miracle-beginnings:eb:baby:23oct09

Enjoy xx

Weddings...

2009-10-20T00:52:00.000-07:00

Scott and I attended a wedding last weekend with old friends. It was a fab night as we always have such a great time with the gang when we are together.

The happy couple are in their mid to late twenties, as are all their friends. So, us "oldies" showed them a great time with our dance moves on the dancefloor.

Aside from the champagne, great food and dancing up a storm, it was beautiful to see mothers from late 20's to late 30's let go and have a fab time. With all the kids being babysat, it was a forum to enjoy adult company and relax.

Weddings also give you an opportunity to think about your own marriage. I am lucky enough to have been married to my soul mate for 10.5 years and to have met him 18 years ago. When you hear the wedding vows, you always think back to your special day and look how far you have come. I feel extremely blessed to still love my mate more than ever.

Growing Pains

2009-10-16T21:41:00.000-07:00

Its hard to know why we go through difficult times in our life and what we are suppose to learn from the experience.

However, when you are longer in that moment, you can reflect and think about the lessons learnt. Going through hard times is what I call "Growing Pains".

We are women, as mothers, need to keep growing in every area of our life, especially with regard to our spirit. We often shy away from opportunities that seem to hard, too confrontational or too risky. BUT if you take the leap of faith and grab the opportunity, you will experience some growing pains with a huge reward on the other side.

I remember how hard it was for me to go through therapy after Kye's birth. It was confrontational, emotional, hard work and just exhausting! But now on reflection, I know that was the most important moment of my life for myself thus far. I cleaned out all the scares and learnt how to take one step infront of another to move ahead in life. The reward was my sanity and becoming a better, not bitter, person.

If an opportunity knocks on your door that asks you to step outside your comfort zone, I dare you to take the leap. Dont worry if you are scared, we all are! Just know that you are putting pieces of yourself back together and the journey is so much more rewarding than the destination.

To have growing pains means you are living your life to the fullest!

The excitment about the book

2009-10-15T03:07:00.000-07:00

Its all happening in our house! It's hard to tell if the kids think its normal that their mum has written a book.

When we received the delivery, there was alot of excitement!! Then there was the launch, which the kids arrived at the tail end and felt the excitement. They observed all the flowers arriving and the presents, plus Scott and I celebrating every minute of the day.

Today I walked into a book shop and spotted Miracle Beginnings on the shelf. I had to remain remotely cool, but felt like punching the air, jumping on the counter and yelling out "can you see my book!". Instead, I just starred at the copies and felt shocked!!! Until my four year old Kye YELLED OUT "Mumma, look, they have the same book as we do at home". Brings it all back to reality.

Tonight, Hanna asked me if she could read Miracle Beginnings. We gave her a copy. She came downstairs after 45 minutes to announce she had read the book. We asked her what she thought and she said "It made me feel sad when I read about Kye, but it made me feel happy when I was born and I thought it was funny about me". She had stopped at Kye's birth, thank goodness. Probably best for her to read later on in her life........

2009-10-13T01:19:00.000-07:00

Breathing Space....

Take the time today to ....

take 10 deep breaths
close your eyes for 3 minutes

eat a piece of chocolate guilt free

call a friend just to say hi

send a thank you email to someone you love

be grateful for all that you have

Take the time today for you!

Overwhelming Response....

2009-10-10T16:51:00.000-07:00

What a week it has been!! Have sold an amazing amount of books in my first week and the responses have been overwhelming. I have had friends and family texting, emailing, calling me to tell me how much they enjoyed the book.

Here are some of the responses:

"My bestie is sitting out on my back lawn reading your book bawling her eyes out! She is a mum of 4 and loves your honesty"

"I read your book!!! You moved me, I cried, I felt your pain, you are a remarkable woman and mother, what an achievement, you should be so proud, as I am of you. You will touch and open many hearts"

"Thank you VERY MUCH for causing my sleep deprivation! Couldn't put your bloody book down last night! Already half way thru and aim to finish it tonight! Its weird reading a book when you know the characters in it! Great idea to have Scott's contribution too"

"Oh my god Raquel, I’m only into the first couple of paragraphs and feel like I’ve been on an emotional rollercoaster with you. I had no idea what you went through... you are truly amazing!"

"The book is FANTASTIC! You are an amazing woman and you inspire me in every way. I can't believe it I nearly finished reading it and I can't put it down. You went thru sooooo much but could always find the positive side and move on. I LOVE the book and I think you are a gorgeous person"

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I am so grateful for all the wonderful feedback and encouragement. Thank you!!

PS I received a text yesterday from a special friend who told me she had just walked into Dymocks in the City and there on display is Miracle Beginnings with 20 copies.......so excited!!!!!!!

The Official Book Launch

2009-10-05T23:19:00.000-07:00

What a special day! Celebrating with my closest family and friends to launch the new book Miracle Beginnings. The photos say it all - happiness, champagne, friendship and celebrations...here are a few photos - enjoy!

Scott popped in after the celebrations as it was strictly females only!

This is my mother in law (on the left), Nanna Lorna in the middle and my mother (on the right)

Beautiful friends from school and our fabulous web designer, Flora, in blue

My long time friend and business partner, Jodie

This is Bec who you will read about in the book

My special friend Amanda (who you will read about in the book) presenting me with a gorgeous clock to represent so many important things to me

My stunning girlfriends celebrating with champas

Every woman loves flowers

2009-10-01T23:02:00.000-07:00

I am waiting for my books to arrive......cant wait! As I am waiting, I have received beautiful bunches of flowers from gorgeous friends sending their love and congratulations for the launch of Miracle Beginnings.

To receive flowers, to me, is such a special way to show your feelings. I am always grateful for the thought to send the flowers and the thought of choosing the flowers to send. I just wish they could last forever!!

As of next Tuesday, Miracle Beginnings is on sale in all book shops around Australia and NZ, as well as from our website. I cant wait for you to read this special book and share in what I have written over the past four years.

Breathing Space......

2009-09-29T22:36:00.000-07:00

"Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more.

If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough" - Oprah

"Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.

Nothing can be done without hope and confidence" - Helen Keller

"Be miserable. Or motivate yourself.
Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice" - Wayne Dyer

Girls Night Out

2009-09-27T01:58:00.000-07:00

I am truly blessed to have such a great group of long standing friends in my life. Today, after a huge day and night out for a friend's hens day, I am feeling exhausted, complete, happy and my tummy muscles are aching from laughing so much.

We started the day at 10.00am and arrived home after midnight. We laughed, chatted, danced, drank champagne and had a ball. I feel into bed laughing, such a great way to end the day.

There was a small group of us with the hens brigade who have known each for over 15 years. A special bond is there that guarantees a great time. We were together for over 12 hours yesterday and I loved every minute.

The hen had a fantastic night and by the end of the long day felt liberated and free with herself. It was such a great site to see. No inhibitions, no judgement, no stress. She had a fantastic time.

Going out with the girls has to be one of the best form of medication for stress, depression and living the routine every day. To let lose and relive your youth is revitalising.

I just feel really lucky to have special friends in my life that give me so much than they would ever know. To them, I am thankful.

My big boy Kye

2009-09-24T23:44:00.000-07:00

Kye has a very special place in my heart, as do all my kids, but this strong little man has grown from strength to strength.

Kye has a very strong personality and there seems to be no grey areas, he is either really happy or really cranky!!! We manage his personality without breaking his spirit by creating boundaries.

Up until a year ago, Kye was a very anxious and nervous little boy. He would freak out with loud noises or unfamiliar places. He would want to be close to me to feel safe and he would often experience mini panic attacks when he felt insecure or anxious.

We took Kye to his pediatrician to make sure medically he was ok, which he was. So we knew the next step was to nurture his emotional behaviour. I was blessed to find a special lady who changed Kye's life forever.

Kye and I visited the special doctor who he was wary of to begin with. The special doctor is an expert in Kinesiology. She worked her magic, which allowed Kye to relax and release his stress. The magic had to have been seen for you to believe the change. After our session, you could see the shift in his behaviour. We attended once more and he even allowed the special doctor massage him with special oils, which he had never let anyone do in his 3 years of life.

Since this time, Kye has grown in leaps and bounds. It was like a weight had been lifted off his shoulders and he was free.

Just this morning, I found him in the kitchen eating his breakfast, which he had prepared by himself (first time achievement!). There was rice milk everywhere, which I overlooked and hugged him with pride. He also went on to tell me that he had just done a poo and wiped his own bum (another first time achievement). His smile was from ear to ear beaming with excitement.

For not one moment do I take his place on this earth for granted. He makes me smile everyday.

A Women's Worth

2009-09-24T23:35:00.000-07:00

I feel really tired today! It has been a huge week from all angles of my life and at the end of week I am exhausted.

The husband and I had lunch together today and I mentioned I just felt like closing my eyes for 5 minutes. He encouraged me to do so and told me to do it without guilt......

As I was laying there, of course unable to sleep, I was thinking about how much we value ourselves or should I say de-value ourselves. How often do we just take 10 minutes of out the day and just be still? We always feel guilty as there is so much to do and to take 10 minutes would be selfish. Or is it?

I curled up on our daybed and closed my eyes. I shut my mind down as it was on overdrive and listened to the birds and stillness. After 10 minutes, I got up and continued on with my work. It was nice to just be still and do nothing.

We are worth this precious downtime to have the energy to keep going. Everyone benefits especially ourselves. I just need to learn to incorporate more downtime in my day to day to life and with the 10 minutes I had today, I am looking forward to my 10 minutes tomorrow.

Show up as Yourself

2009-09-23T21:28:00.000-07:00

When do we really know who we are? Is there a certain age or life changing experience?

Do you ever question, who am I?

Are you trying to be what everyone else wants you to be? Or are you imitating the person you want to be to hide from your true self.

Here is my verdict - tell the truth, share the truth and live the truth to find YOU.

Sound easy? No way, its hard work. Here is how it works:

Tell the truth - Try and tell the truth, the real deal, as often as you can. There is a fine line of spurting words out with no care and gently speaking the truth. Be honest and upfront in a dignified way

Share the truth - No hiding behind closed doors. We always feel so much better when we share the truth about our experiences that have moulded us into who we are. You can tell when someone is ready to share the truth, they have worked through their own healing and ready to share this with others.

Live the truth - Keep true to thyself. Be ethical. Be yourself. STOP trying to be like other woman and create your own life with your own ways.

Deliberately take this challenge on and see what happens.

Post Natal Depression is not a swear word!

2009-09-22T15:21:00.000-07:00

Last night I was chilling out on the lounge watching some telly. I flicked across to SBS Insight and the topic for the show was "Post Natal Depression". It caught my attention immediately.

Finally, there was an open forum of men and women who were talking openly and honestly about the affects of post natal depression. It was priceless.

One of the main reasons I wrote my book was to speak about post natal depression. It all seems so hush, hush and not a topic of conversation. Women are either in denial or embarrassed to talk about what they are going through or what they went through.

I know when I was suffereing from this depression, I pretended everything was fine, but deep down inside I knew there was something wrong. Its so easy to live day to day and smile, yet in the privacy of your pillow, cry and feel anxious about every detail of your day.

From last night's program, it has given me an burst of motivation to create more awareness.

Watch this space ladies!

The book has ARRIVED!

2009-09-17T20:46:00.000-07:00

What a moment! I opened the letterbox and there was the package holding my book. I held it for a moment. Maybe a moment too long, as the postman came back up the hill to see if there was anything wrong with the package he had just delivered!

I sat down on the lounge, closed my eyes and opened the package. As I opened my eyes to see the book for the first time, tears filled before I could even look at contents. It was a special moment.

All the journal entries, the scribbled notes, the disappointment of my first publisher financially unable to publish the book to finding my new publisher who has created a masterpiece. I had goosebumps and I was in awe of the special book that I held in my hands.

It was surreal. The book looks like one on the shops!. It has come together FINALLY.

Four years ago when I started to write the book, a family friend questioned my purpose and advised that it would be a difficult task to take on as I had no experience in writing or publishing.

Little did this family friend know that my mindset and my determination was all I needed.

The purpose of writing Miracle Beginnings has always been bigger than me. I am just the messenger. The purpose is about to reveal itself with the launch of the book and I cant wait to see what unfolds.

Spreading the word to help each other

2009-09-15T23:27:00.000-07:00

My 2nd prem, Kye

My girlfriend messaged me yesterday explaining she had passed on the Miracle Beginnings website details to a friend of a friend who had just delivered a 30 week prem baby.

This is what our website is all about - spreading the word to help each other.

When I had both my prem babies there was not enough information readily available for me, as the mother. I had no idea that my feelings and fears were normal. All I wanted was connection with a mother who had been where I had found myself.

Having a prem baby is never what we expect when we fall pregnant. Therefore, it is always a shock when we are told that our baby will arrive early, in some cases, too early.

My prayers and thoughts are with this special mother who has just delivered a 30 week prem baby.

I hope that someday she will visit Miracle Beginnings when she is ready to connect and help herself through this tough time.

Sleep deprivation

2009-09-15T23:01:00.000-07:00

This is my little man Lukas! He woke last night with a bout of croup. No pre-warning, just screaming at 1am and coughing like a sick dog or cranky seal! Off to the hospital to get the steroids. Around 3.30am we arrived home. I laid in bed, for what seemed another hour starring at the ceiling. I was grateful we were home in our beds and Lu was sleeping peacefully after his medication.

Today, the sleep deprivation reminded me of the days when I had arrived home with my second prem, Kye. I forgot how hard it is to function on minimal and disrupted sleep.

As a prem mum, we are usually up every couple of hours feeding our babies or expressing milk or trying to sleep to fit in sleep in around waking hours.

Here is a reminder of what you need to do to keep your energy at a level in which you can function and get through the day.

Make sure you hydrate. Drink as much water as possible and then some more.
Rest when you can. Sleep when the baby is sleeping.
Don't fall to the temptation of eating. When we are tired, we feel like all the junk food and sugar available. Have a choc or two, but also incorporate healthy food for energy.
Keep your activity low. If you feeling really, really, really tired - accept it! Don't put too much pressure on yourself to do everything on your to do list. Would anyone notice if you postpone your list till tomorrow
Try some meditation - its like a power nap. My trainer and our fitness expert on our web, Colleen, has a fantastic CD to help you through a 15 minute meditation. You will feel like you have slept for 12 hours

Sleep is such a wonderful thing! We all just need more off it.

Wishing you all a restful night, I know I will be snoring by 8pm!

Superwoman - who is she?

2009-09-07T21:29:00.000-07:00

Would the real Superwoman please sit down! You are sending out the message to all of us to be just like you. The pressure is mounting and the image is slipping. Let's make a deal and become real woman who do not feel like being Superwoman all of the time.

The secret - there is no Superwoman. We all feel like we know one, but to be honest, we are creating her in our mind. How? We are comparing ourselves to other woman who do more than we do and we always feel inadequate in comparison. We have a facade to take us through life.

I was watching my favourite show in the world today, Oprah, and enjoyed her interview with Christina Applegate on her double mascatomy. Such an inspiration and touching interview. It was fantastic to see the real her. She admitted that somedays she would put on the act of being Superwoman and on those days, all she really wanted was for her friends and family to still hug her and let let her be her trueself.

Whilst she was speaking, I could relate to her, but through my own experience. After having Kye, my second prem, I became Superwoman for survival as I was afraid of who I would be if I let down my sheild. I was not doing myself any favours as it all came back to bite me when I was least expecting the breakdown.

There are many of us who are trying to live up to these Superwoman standards that somehow have been set by society, mainly the female population.

Be yourself.

If you admiring another woman on how much she fits in to her life or how her children always look immaculate or how her house it always spotless, just do that, admire. Don't try and be her. We are all different and all lead different lives with different benchmarks.

The only person who will suffer from feeling inadequate is you. The only person who puts pressure on herself is you. Give yourself a break and challenge yourself to be the person YOU want to be.

Date Night with the husband

2009-09-03T21:13:00.000-07:00

As you may know, the husband and I have been together for 18 years. Yes, we met when we were very, very young!

When I talk about this to other women they are amazed as there are many of us who are on our 2nd and maybe even our 3rd marriage still searching for our soul mate.

Having our babies, especially our prem babies, were testing times for our marriage. Thankfully, we created a strong foundation in our relationship and worked as a team. This played a huge role during those times.

Also having three kids under 6yrs and running 5 businesses between the two of us makes our lives very busy. It would be easy to keep our head down and just get done what needs to be done.

However, we truly value our marriage and know that life would not work without each other being happy and working on our communication.

We agreed about 12 months ago to introduce date night one night every week. The way it works is simple. Every Thursday night is our night. We take turns each week arranging something special to do or share with the other. If we have something on the Thursday night, we change it to the Wednesday, that way, we never miss out.

We have three rules - no talk about finances, business or kids!

Our date night is a night where we are booked in to spend quality time together. The majority of date nights are in our home with the odd occasion going out for dinner. It does not have to be expensive, its the thought and effort that counts. We have had some great date nights including last night.

It was the husband's turn to put something together.

I adore custard filled canoli Italian sweets. I rarely eat them as they are not readily available unless we go to leichhardt or an Italian restaurant. I have a savory tooth, but the canolis send me weak at the knees every time.

Knowing my addiction to these Italian sweets, the husband went shopping and found the canoli biscuit pastry rolls and purchased patisserie custard, which he had to blend with cream and then pipe in to the shell. This was all being done whilst I was in a bubble bath with a glass of red wine (on my own and loving every second).

When I joined him, he proudly presented a plate of homemade canolis. I could not believe it! I was very impressed. We sat down and enjoyed every mouthful. We chatted for a few hours and enjoyed each others company.

Date night is all about connection. It is easy to live in the same house, have dinner together every night as a family, be with the kids and even work together without really knowing what is going on inside your partners head.

Try it ....... have fun with it and commit to it!